episode 44
“Relationship Revolution”
with Rachael and Andy Seymour
Rachael Seymour (Somatic Healing & Transformation Expert in Sex, Love, and Energy) and Andy Seymour (Musculoskeletal Physiotherapist)
In the years of 2021 and 2022 Divorce rates in Australia spiked as high as they had been since 1976. The year in which The Family Law Act was reformed to include “No Fault”, meaning spouses could for the first time opt that they just no longer got along, and it was a mutual decision at “no fault”, in turn that year, the divorce rates spiked to the highest in history… until the pandemic.
2 years after the pandemic and lockdowns, it only feels now like the relationships that were pushed to the edge, have either finally regrouped from the pressure and trauma of the unknown, or reset as rebuilt individuals than prior couples. But the fallout of it all begs the question of, how can a marriage survive the modern world? The pressures that come with the pace in which our society now runs, the cost of living crisis, the unavoidable content that gets consciously or unconsciously shoved down our throats by social media algorithms, or the access to endless sexual fantasies online, that remove you far from your own reality, and set an unhealthy and unrealistic tone for intimacy and connection with a long term committed partner.
So when you come across a couple that have somehow managed to navigate their way through from being high school sweethearts to parents of teens, that still remain healthy partners to each other, it’s like finding a rare glistening gem in the jungle, and you wonder how did they get there and how are they still sparkling? Bec met Rachael Seymour, Co-Founder of The Energy Studio that focuses on well-being practices such as Kundalini Yoga, Meditation, Sexual Energy and so much more and her husband Andrew Seymour, a Senior Musculoskeletal Physiotherapist and Partner at Physica, and it was intriguing to see a couple who view life with difference lenses, Rachael focusing on spirituality and Andy following the science he practices, whom are still so connected and even more impressively, respecting of each other’s differing views. So we ask how have they grown together over grown a part? And how have they done it whilst staying true to who they are as individuals?
“To understand someone else (in a relationship) you’ve got to understand yourself first.”
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UPCOMING RETREATS OR PROGRAMS HOSTED BY THE ENERGY STUDIO
Calm Within : A Day of Anxiety Relief
Understanding and Managing Anxiety: A Practical, Supportive, and Hands-On Experience
Wed, 12 Feb (11:30am to 3:30pm)
Prana House
About the event
Join us for Calm Within, an event designed to help you settle your nervous system and equip you with simple, practical tools that you can immediately implement in your daily life. This thoughtfully curated experience will guide you in connecting with your inner self and provide long-lasting strategies to manage anxiety well beyond the event.
What to Expect
Breathwork: Discover how intentional breathing can calm your mind and reduce anxiety. Learn techniques you can easily incorporate into your daily routine to find peace in any situation.
Meditation: Experience the power of mindfulness to quiet your thoughts and ground yourself in the present moment. You’ll leave with meditation practices that help you stay centered and calm.
Kundalini Yoga: Engage in Kundalini yoga sessions designed to awaken your inner energy and bring balance to your mind, body, and spirit. These sessions will teach you how to use movement and breath to reduce anxiety and enhance…
Online 12 week course
About The Course
The Relationship Revolution is a transformative 12-module online course designed to take you and your partner on an experiential journey toward deeper connection, intimacy, and pleasure. This course provides you with the tools to unlock a new level of energy and harmony inside yourself and your relationship.
Starting January 18th, we invite you to embark on a journey of change, discovery, and growth that will transform not only your intimate connection but your entire life.
Thu, 21 to Tue 26th Aug 2025 (5 nights)
Soma Retreat, Ewingsdale
A retreat for couples ready to take their relationship to the next level
About This Retreat:
In the heart of Byron Bay’s hinterland, we’re excited to invite you to our 3-day/4-night retreat specifically for couples.
Enjoy a dynamic blend of experiences, including an empowering introduction to breathwork and profound teachings on feminine and masculine energies. Engage in activities like golf and surfing, and complement your journey with both passive and active meditations.
Together with massages and delicious vegetarian cuisine, this promises both rest and a holistic immersion into rejuvenation and self-discovery. This isn’t a typical escape; it’s an opportunity to reinvigorate from the inside out.
TOP TIPS
3 Types of Relationships
Logistics Life
In the Logistics Life, the relationship focuses primarily on fulfilling roles and responsibilities. It’s about getting things done and managing the practical aspects of life, often with little room for emotional depth or personal exploration.
Focus: Fulfilling designated roles—whether as a parent, partner, or professional. The emphasis is on practical needs, like work, family, and day-to-day logistics.
Emotional Landscape: The emotional connection can feel distant or surface-level. There’s a sense of co-existing rather than thriving together. Love is often defined by fulfilling the role one plays rather than shared intimacy.
Core Principle: This relationship is about function and logistics. The value is placed on meeting responsibilities rather than emotional fulfillment or connection. Both individuals may feel like they are simply going through the motions.
Mentality: Life revolves around meeting external expectations and fulfilling personal responsibilities. The relationship can feel stable but lacks depth or a sense of adventure.
Challenges: Over time, one or both partners may feel disconnected, as their roles have become their identity. The relationship can be marked by a sense of “we’re good as long as we’re fulfilling our roles,” but emotional needs often go unmet.
What Lets This Relationship Down: The focus is on duty, not love. There’s often a lack of time or energy for personal growth or connection. Partners might co-exist comfortably but without deep emotional or spiritual fulfilment. The relationship can survive on routine and responsibilities, but passion and love may feel minimal or absent.
Loyal Love Life
In the Loyal Love Life, partners are deeply committed to one another, navigating life together with a sense of mutual support, personal fulfilment, and material success. It’s marked by loyalty and stability, but there can be a sense of longing for more.
Focus: Personal fulfilment and achieving material success—house, kids, holidays, looking good, and keeping up with societal expectations. The relationship supports each partner in their pursuit of these goals.
Emotional Landscape: The love between partners is warm, comforting, and loyal. However, while it is heartwarming, it may not feel wildly expansive, transformative, or deeply passionate. The connection is stable but can become predictable or stagnant over time.
Core Principle: This relationship is based on loyalty, mutual support, and shared goals. The bond is rooted in navigating life’s challenges together and maintaining a united front.
Mentality: Life is approached as a team effort—working together to achieve a sense of stability and success. There’s an emphasis on enduring commitment and facing challenges together.
Challenges: Over time, the relationship can become defined by compromises, routine, and unmet desires for deeper emotional or spiritual connection. The love may feel more practical than passionate.
What Lets This Relationship Down: Despite outward appearances of success (money, home, children, holidays), partners may start to feel that something is missing. Life becomes predictable, and personal or relational growth can be stunted. There’s a quiet yearning for more, but partners may hesitate to voice dissatisfaction out of gratitude for their “good” life. They may feel stuck in a cycle of going through the motions, unsure of how to break free.
Life Force Energy Life
This is the relationship type where individuals and couples move beyond traditional roles and logistics, as well as the loyal love dynamic. They encompass everything from the previous stages, but there's a deeper, more expansive connection. This phase is about cultivating, moving, and transmuting life force energy—understanding that each person is responsible for their own energy. It's where jing (sexual energy) is transformed into chi (life force energy), and then into shen (spiritual energy). The focus is on having enough energy to be deeply committed to something truly meaningful and of service in this lifetime—both as an individual and as a couple.
In this relationship, emotions are energy in motion. There's no suppression or numbing; everything is felt and expressed with reverence. Each person has the ability to be fully embodied, holding space for both their own joy and discomfort, as well as for the other person. It’s a yin and yang dynamic, where each partner contributes to the flow of energy while expanding into their own truth.
The core principles here are:
You are not your story: Your past does not define you.
You are not broken: You are whole, and you are walking together towards your authentic selves.
Witness and awareness: You approach life from a place of presence, not attachment to the chaos or drama.
Non-attachment to outcomes: While you care deeply about what you want to achieve, you’re not defined by your material success or experiences.
The emotional landscape in this phase is fluid and expansive. There’s no need to suppress emotions—each person feels and expresses them as they come. There’s an ongoing reverence for each other’s emotional states, and the ability to be fully present, both for your own growth and for the other’s.
The challenges arise when external pressures—societal conditioning, past experiences, or personal ego—try to pull the relationship back into the mundane and the logistics of life. The temptation is to revert to an ego-based, self-centred mentality, focusing only on one's own needs. The challenge is not falling into the pattern of thinking, "I need things to be okay for me to be okay." This is what lets this type of relationship down—when each partner loses sight of the collective energy and returns to focusing solely on individual comfort and desires.
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Andy’s recommendations are:
Breathe by James Nestor (generic for both genders)
The Way of the Superior Man by David Deida (for men)
Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself by Dr Joe Dispenza (generic for both genders )
Rachael’s Recommendations are:
A Radical Awakening by Dr Shefali (for women)
Getting the Love you Want by Harville Hendrix (relationship based - generic for both genders)
Stillness is the Key by Ryan Holiday (generic for both genders)